Every last one of us needs to be outstanding in each field and decision of our life. Yet, the reality remains that not every person can be unique in all parts of life.
Confidence isn’t something that can be accomplished in a day or seven days.
It's a continuous interaction that you need to accomplish to keep up your self-awareness and to flourish.
Today, we are going to learn about 10 proven ways to build confidence.
Now, let’s begin.
Imagine you’re giving a speech in front of a crowd of people. Standing on stage, how do you feel? Intimidated? Insecure?
You may be worried about how you sound or what you look like. You may be scared other people are going to judge or criticize you.
But there’s one important thing every unconfident person forgets. Whether you’re giving a speech or flirting with a stranger, everyone is human.
You have a psychological bias toward your own mind, because you know yourself better than you know anyone else. But here’s an incredible fact few people stop to consider.
This concept is called Theory of Mind, and it’s one of the fundamentals of human socialization. The vast majority of adults understand theory of mind at a complex level.
You can attribute mental states to others. You can use empathy to understand a stranger’s emotions. But, when you get scared or nervous, you retreat into your own mind, and you forget that we are all human being. And we all make mistakes.
According to a 2008 study in the Journal of Personality, you can use shared humanity to build confidence.
Whenever you’re feeling intimidated, remind yourself that you are just like everyone else. We’ve all had awkward moments. We’ve all experienced fear and anxiety.
In other words, the rest of the world understands where you’re coming from. By recognizing your shared humanity, you can overcome your fears.
From your perspective, it may seem like crowds and strangers are judging you; but, as humans, we understand exactly how you feel.
🌸🌸 Confidence is a product of achievement. 🌸🌸
When you accomplish a goal or overcome an obstacle, that sense of achievement creates personal pride and self-esteem. Each time you succeed, you’re proving to yourself that you are capable of great things.
But how do you use your goals and achievements to build lasting confidence?
Most of us focus on things we can’t do. But what about all the things you can do? What about the goals you have accomplished? The talents you have developed?
Yes, there’s a long road ahead of you, but you’ve come to a great distance. And that is something to be proud of.
To put this technique into practice, keep a running record of your progress. This is called progress monitoring.
When you’re feeling intimidated or insecure, look back at everything you’ve achieved. Remind yourself how far you’ve come, because your achievements will inspire you to push even further.
Confident and unconfident people experience the same range of Emotions, Nerves, Fears, Insecurities.
Even the most successful individuals get scared sometimes. But they bowl over their fears because these confident people have a powerful force in their corner.
🌸🌸That force… is preparation.🌸🌸
How much time do you spend preparing for the challenges in your life? Successful people pour themselves into their prep-work because they know a simple truth:
Unless you’re stellar on your feet, your confidence plummets when you’re feeling unprepared. You don’t know what surprises lay in store, so your thoughts and nerves spiral out of control.
On the other hand, when you’re prepared, you feel equipped to handle anything the world throws at you. And that gives you the confidence to take risks and face your fears.
If you don’t believe in yourself, believe in your preparation. Discover confidence in your own hard work. That way, you can approach any challenge with the tools to succeed.
Confidence isn’t always a mental game. Sometimes, the best way to build confidence… is to take care of your body.
According to a 2012 study in the International Journal of Behavioral Medicine, one daily routine can increase your confidence overnight.
This study looked at the relationship between two important variables: self-esteem and sleep.
Researchers tested whether healthier sleep cycles increased the self-confidence of their participants. Across the board, researchers saw amazing results.
Well-rested participants operated with a more optimistic mindset. Not only did participants have the courage to take risk, they also felt more confident in their own success.
If you want to build more confidence, take care of your body.
Your brain needs the energy to build and maintain a confident state of mind. So give your brain the rest it needs, night after night.
Your appearance plays a huge role in your self-confidence.
If you’re ashamed of the way you look, that shame ripples outward, affecting your happiness, productivity, and decision-making.
To build a more confident mindset, you have to nurture a look and style that makes you feel like yourself.
Take your hair, for example. If you don’t like the way your hair looks, you’re going to worry what other people think. You’re going to display insecure, unconfident body language. And you’re going to wrestle with nagging, negative thoughts.
All because your hair doesn’t look the way you’d like.
What if you spent a few extra minutes styling your hair in the morning? What if, instead of worrying about your hair, you felt like showing it off?
Suddenly, your body language becomes attractive and self-assured. You stop worrying about what other people think, and you may receive a few compliments along the way.
Before you can think your best, you have to look your best.
Be proud of the person you put on display because the most confident people feel comfortable in their own skin.
🌈The Ups and Downs
Confidence comes, and confidence goes.
On good days, you may feel like a million bucks. On bad days, you may wrestle with nerves and pesky insecurities.
When you’re not as confident as you would like, you might get angry with yourself. You might criticize your shortcomings or over-analyze your mistakes.
But even the most confident people are not confident 24/7. They have good days and bad days, just like everyone else. In those moments, confident people don’t ridicule or criticize themselves.
🌈Practice in Comfort
Many people get scared when others are watching.
You may not like crowded places or group conversations, because you feel uncomfortable expressing yourself out loud. Luckily, there’s an easy way to build your confidence in any social setting.
Start by simply talking out loud.
You don’t have to talk to anyone. Talk to yourself like no one is listening. There’s no pressure.
There’s no risk. It’s just you and your own voice.
You’d be surprised how difficult this can be. Some people struggle to express themselves, even when no one’s around. Next, try talking to someone you trust, like a friend or a family member.
It may feel uncomfortable at first, but that’s okay. Confidence takes time. Eventually, expressing yourself will feel natural.
You’ll develop confidence in the sound of your own voice. And, most importantly, you’ll learn to express yourself without feeling self-conscious.
Many people can explain their priorities and values, but only a select few people demonstrate their values in all aspects of their lives. If you want to build confidence, you have to stop saying… and start doing.
Let’s say you want to climb the professional ladder.
You may tell people, “I am a very ambitious person, I want to be successful.”
You may convince everyone in the world that you are career-oriented, but there’s only one way to truly convince yourself of anything.
You need to take action.
The same techniques hold true for any goal, dream, or habit, whether it is personal or professional. If you want to develop lasting confidence, you shouldn’t settle for empty values or false priorities.
Instead, let your actions define who you are.
Are you willing to own your goals?
There will be people in your life who discourage you—people who tear apart the dreams and visions you aspire to realize.
When others criticize your goals, your insecurities may get the best of you. You may worry that you’re making the wrong decisions.
But, if you want to build confidence, take ownership of your dreams. Make them yours.
Tell people what you want and explain your reasoning. Because your dreams are central to who you are. They build you up as easily as they bring you down. So don’t be ashamed of your aspirations.
Advertise them with pride, because those aspirations are uniquely yours.
Risk-taking requires practice.
If you struggle with your confidence, you may not be ready for a huge, life-changing risk. But you can slowly practice by inching out of your comfort zone.
Let’s say you want to take a massive leap of faith at work. You want to quit your boring day job in favor of a hyper-competitive dream job. But you don’t have the confidence to take this incredible risk quite yet.
You can develop the confidence you need by taking risks in other areas of your life. You may pursue an adventurous new hobby. You may change the way you dress, daring to reinvent your style.
You’re proving to yourself that you can succeed outside your comfort zone. It may take time, but eventually, when you’ve become a seasoned risk-taker, you’ll feel confident and prepared for that life-changing transition.